How about enduring, trying, actually doing things.
Do you remember in the summer sitting on your porch drinking a beer or lemonaid? And there were some flies that came around and bothered you? Well how resilient were you to not let them bother you? Or did each one cause you discomfort and irritate you? You could have ignored them but you they let them irritate you, each and every one of them. If that happened then you are not a resilient person, and need to calm yourself down.
Do you remember in the summer sitting on your porch drinking a beer or lemonaid? And there were some flies that came around and bothered you? Well how resilient were you to not let them bother you? Or did each one cause you discomfort and irritate you? You could have ignored them but you they let them irritate you, each and every one of them. If that happened then you are not a resilient person, and need to calm yourself down.